Typical modern family life is blended, diverse, complex and busy. Our experience of family is changing and evolving faster than ever. Rapid technological developments have improved and empowered our lives by giving us more immediate and unlimited access to information and each other, but have also burdened us with more distractions and increased potential for negative interference. As a result, the experience of really being present and connected as family is more challenged than ever….
November 2nd, 2016
July 6th, 2016
Our experience of debt is the result of the fear of not having enough. Our emotional congestion causes us to congest energetically in our lives. Driven by fear of scarcity we make head-in-the-sand choices which inevitably leave us with more to fear. We choose immediate gratification over delayed investment. We spend frivolously. We unconsciously gorge ourselves with relief now, for fear of it never coming later. We stifle our creativity with hurry and worry and avoidance.
March 20th, 2016
“We always see our own unavowed mistakes in our opponent.”
~ Carl Jung
The Fog of Projection
There is a lot of complexity going on inside each of us that can really fog up our capacity for empathy. Probably the biggest way empathy get’s distorted is via the phenomenon of projection.
You spot it, you got it.
You see it, you be it.
You shun it, you done it.
Beauty is in the eye of the…
January 21st, 2016
My time working as an in-home therapist (2003-2005) was one of the most important learning experiences of my life. I was able to enter the homes of my client’s and observe the family dynamics directly in their native environments. This was good preparation for the outpatient work that was to come, when I wouldn’t have such direct observations. I was able to witness first hand some dramatic differences between client’s subjective perceptions of experiences and and my own objective, or so…
January 16th, 2016
In February of 2006 I had just returned home from an inspiring two months of meditation in an ashram, in India. I took a job as the clinical supervisor for an organization which treated male domestic violence perpetrators. My job was basically to meet with them individually and prepare them for these psycho-educational process groups, which were the primary mode of treatment offered by the organization, RAVEN (Rape And Violence End Now). The following is a letter I wrote the to…